Discover Your Path to Personal Happiness: Secrets Exposed!
Have you ever felt like your happiness is out of your control? It's a common feeling, but guess what? You have more power over your happiness than you might think. Welcome to a journey of self-empowerment and taking charge of your happiness!
Understanding Happiness and Personal Responsibility
Defining Happiness - Let's start with the basics. Happiness isn't just a fleeting emotion; it's a state of being. It's that warm feeling of contentment and fulfillment that radiates from within. Psychologically speaking, you need to experience a sense of control over your life to feel happy. This requires that you be willing to take responsibility for your life, actions, goals and well-being.
Embracing Personal Responsibility - So, here's the secret: personal responsibility. It's the idea that you have the power to shape your own happiness. Sure, life throws curveballs, but how you respond to them is entirely up to you.
Identifying External vs. Internal Locus of Control
External Factors vs. Internal Beliefs Think about it. Are you constantly waiting for external factors to make you happy? Or do you believe that your happiness comes from within? Shifting from an external to an internal locus of control is key to empowerment.
The Power of Internal Locus of Control When you believe that your actions and mindset shape your happiness, you're in the driver's seat of your life. It's about taking ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Mindset Shifts
This is such a liberating mindset shift! It is empowering.
You are responsible for the fulfillment of your wishes and desires. You are responsible for choosing the values you truly live by. You need to ask yourself - “what am I willing to do get what I want based on my values?”.
You are responsible for your choices and actions. You are responsible for your behaviors with other people. Let go of the thoughts that “I am the powerless victim” and embrace the survivor mindset & take control of your happiness.
You are responsible for how you use your time - this should reflect your values. If you say that you love your partner but then spend all your time at work, you need to confront your contradiction.
Ultimately, you are responsible for your personal happiness. One sign of human immaturity is the belief that it is someone else’s job to make me happy - if only someone would love me, if only someone would make me happy. Ask yourself “If I take full responsibility for my personal happiness, then I will - ” (Nathaniel Branden <The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem>)
When Things Are Beyond Your Control
We, as grown adults, are meant to be responsible for ourselves, psychologically and financially. However, sometimes things are out of your control, and it is too much of an ask for you to be responsible for those things as you will fail your expectation. You need to know what is within your control and which isn’t. Accept the things that are out of your control and take responsibility for the things within your control.
Final Words
No one is coming. No one is coming to save you. No one is coming to solve the problems for you. No one if coming to make you happy. We are responsible for our personal happiness. This is a journey of self-empowerment and happiness. You have the power to shape your own reality. By embracing personal responsibility, you're well on your way to a happier, more fulfilling life. Here's to you, the architect of your own happiness!
My name is Wenjia, as a highly skilled and empathetic therapist, I specialize in supporting exhausted adults who struggle with low self-esteem/people pleasing/co-dependency/perfectionism. My goal is to help you develop a positive view of yourself and thrive in a more fulfilling life.